As a caregiver or family member, witnessing the final hour of a loved one’s life can be a challenging and emotional experience. It’s essential to be prepared and understand what to expect. While each person’s journey is unique, some common physical changes may occur in the last hour of life. Here’s a guide to help you navigate this sensitive time:

Last Breath

During the last hour of life, it’s common for a terminally ill person to take their final breath. The breathing pattern may become irregular, with long pauses between breaths. The last breath is often quiet and peaceful, which signifies the end of the person’s physical life.

Potential Expulsions of Fluids

In some cases, fluids, such as saliva or mucus, may be expelled from the oral cavity during the last hour of life. It’s essential to understand that these expulsions are natural and do not indicate distress or discomfort.

Reflex Breathing

Even after the heart has stopped, reflex breathing can occur during the last hour of life. This reflexive breathing is a natural body response that may last for a brief period. It’s important to remember that the person is unaware of or experiencing discomfort during this time.

Urination and Bowel Activity

As the body prepares for the end of life, the muscles controlling the bladder and bowel may relax. This can result in urination or bowel activity upon death. Understand that this is a normal part of the body’s natural processes and does not cause any pain or discomfort for the person.

Emotional Support

Emotional support is crucial during the last hour of life for both the person and their loved ones. Offer comfort, reassurance, and a calm presence. Hold their hand, speak softly, and let them know that you are there with them. Remember that hearing is thought to be the last sense to go, so your presence and soothing words can comfort the person.

Seeking Professional Support

If you have any concerns or questions during this time, don’t hesitate to contact the healthcare professionals providing care. They can offer guidance and support to help you navigate the final hour of life.

Remember, this guide provides a general overview, and individual experiences may vary. Each person’s end-of-life journey is unique, and it’s essential to approach it with compassion, empathy, and understanding.

Resources

On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss

Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief

It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand

Need Help Dealing with Grief? GriefShare Grief & Loss Support Groups Are Here for You

Children Grief Resources

For Ages 4-6

For Ages 6-8

For Ages 8-10

For Ages 11-13

  • All the Blues in the Sky by Renée Watson – About a 13-year-old whose best friend dies on her birthday, exploring grief through counseling group experiences.
  • The Truth as Told by Mason Buttle by Leslie Connor – Chronicles a boy dealing with a friend’s death, learning disability, and community judgment.
  • The Year of the Rat by Clare Furniss – A 15-year-old coping with her mother’s death during childbirth and caring for the baby sister.
  • What On Earth Do You Do When Someone Dies? by Trevor Romain – Accessible for ages 8 to young teens, addressing common questions about death.

For Ages 13-18

Specialized Grief Resources

Young Adult Literature Exploring Grief:

  • Clap When You Land by Elizabeth Acevedo – Two sisters united by their father’s death and his double life.
  • The Grief Keeper by Alexandra Villasante – Speculative fiction addressing grief, trauma, and immigration.
  • Long Way Down by Jason Reynolds – A teen coping with his brother’s shooting death.
  • King and the Dragonflies by Kacen Callender – National Book Award winner about family grief.

Helpful Online Resources

  • The Dougy Center offers extensive free resources, including activity sheets, tip sheets, and guidance for children and families. They provide age-appropriate materials and have partnered with Sesame Street on grief resources.
  • Winston’s Wish provides comprehensive bereavement support for children up to age 25, including online chat, phone support, and downloadable resources. It also offers specialized guidance for different types of loss.
  • Sesame Street Communities: Helping Kids Grieve features interactive videos with Elmo and other characters, activities for expressing feelings, and guidance for families. All resources are free and available in multiple languages.
  • National Alliance for Children’s Grief (NACG) provides educational toolkits, connects families to local support services, and offers professional development for those working with grieving children.
  • GriefShare helps locate local grief support groups for families and provides daily email encouragement for those processing loss.

Enhanced Online Resources for Teens

Specialized Teen Platforms

  • Talk GriefWinston’s Wish operates this dedicated online space for teenagers and young adults aged 13-25. It features peer stories and professional support.
  • Teenage Grief Sucks – A teen-run website opening conversations about grief where teens can read candid stories and share their own experiences.
  • Actively Moving Forward – A national network specifically created for grieving young adults, addressing the unique challenges of this age group.
  • The Dinner Party – Young adults in nearly 100 cities worldwide meet for dinner, creating community for emerging adults who’ve experienced loss.

Comprehensive Teen Support Centers

  • The Dougy Center Teen Resources provide age-specific materials including tip sheets that acknowledge “grief usually does what it wants” and doesn’t follow rules or schedules. They emphasize that there’s no right or wrong way to grieve.
  • Hospice of the Valley Teen Resources offers specialized materials addressing how teens grieve differently than adults, sudden versus expected death, and losing siblings or friends.
  • Children’s Room Teen Program provides peer support groups and activities specifically for teens to connect around shared interests while processing grief.

Interactive Support Options

  • Winston’s Wish offers immediate support through live chat, helpline, and text services – no waiting lists required. They also provide one-to-one sessions with bereavement specialists for teens 13 and older.
  • HEART Play for Young Adults connects late high school and college-aged individuals, providing space to discuss challenges of graduation, leaving home after loss, and meeting new people.

Educational Resources for Teens and Families

  • The JED Foundation provides mental health resources showing teens how they can support one another and overcome challenges during the transition to adulthood.
  • Eluna Network offers grief resources organized by specific age ranges, including detailed developmental information and support strategies for both middle school and high school students.
  • National Alliance for Children’s Grief provides educational toolkits and connects families to local services, with materials specifically designed for adolescent grief.

Providing Comfort During the Last Days of Life with Barbara Karnes RN (YouTube Video)

Preparing the patient, family, and caregivers for a “Good Death.”

Velocity of Changes in Condition as an Indicator of Approaching Death (often helpful to answer how soon? or when?)

The Dying Process and the End of Life

The Last Hours of Life

Gone from My Sight: The Dying Experience

The Eleventh Hour: A Caring Guideline for the Hours to Minutes Before Death

By Your Side, A Guide for Caring for the Dying at Home

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