When someone we love is extremely sick and close to dying, we may worry about them. We may wonder if they are hungry or thirsty. We may want to feed them and give them water. But sometimes, that is not what they need or want. In this article, I will explain why your loved one is not starving or dehydrated to death and how you can help them feel comfortable and loved.
The Brain Shuts Down the Drive to Eat and Drink
I talked to a doctor named Eric Barr in March 2021, who works with dying people. He told me that when people are dying, their brain tells them to eat and drink less. This is normal and natural. It means that their body is getting ready to die.
Many people think giving food and water to someone sick is a way of showing love and care. When I was a kid, my grandma made soup and sandwiches for me when I was ill. I have seen other people do the same thing for their loved ones. It is exceedingly kind and sweet.
But when someone is dying, it is different. They may not want to eat or drink anything. They may say no, turn their head away, or show signs that they are not hungry. We should respect their wishes and not force them to eat or drink. Trying to make them eat or drink when they are sleeping or not awake can be very bad for them. It can make them choke, have trouble breathing, or have pain in their body.
When someone dies, their body does not need as much energy as before. It focuses on keeping its brain, heart, lungs, and kidneys working. Giving them too much food or water can make their body work harder than it needs to. It can also make their lungs fill with water or their legs swell. This can make them feel worse and die sooner.
Conclusion
Your loved one is not suffering from hunger or thirst. They are going through a natural process of dying. The best thing you can do for them is to be with them, talk to them, hug them, and tell them you love them. You can also get help from people who care for dying people, like hospice or palliative care. They can make your loved one feel more comfortable and peaceful. They can also support you and your family during this challenging time.
